Looking for a Therapist? Ask Yourself These Questions First.
Written By: Ambreia Meadows-Fernand
There’s never a wrong time to start a healing journey. But finding and committing to a therapist can be overwhelming. The search process might raise even more curiosity about your needs and expectations, especially if you’ve never had a therapist. Asking the right questions can make or break your experience.
If you’re uncertain where to start, we've got you covered! Here are some critical questions to ask yourself before you commit to a therapist!
1. Why am I interested in therapy right now?
This question encourages you to explore your “why” for seeking therapy. You may find you’re seeking therapy based on someone else's experience or expectations of how you should show up. It’s OK if you don’t know your “why”—there’s no “right answer.”
Bring that information to therapy, and you can explore it together. After your first conversation, you may develop new goals or discover new truths.
2. Do I have the time and emotional capacity for therapy?
Therapy sounds like a great idea. But to be effective, you must commit time to talking about painful or uncomfortable topics.
The work doesn’t stop when you leave the session. You’ll need additional time to reflect and practice the skills you learned during your appointments. A related question, “Do I feel ready to be honest and transparent with a therapist about my struggles, fears, and vulnerabilities?” is helpful, too.
3. What type of therapy am I interested in?
When you imagine therapy, you might envision two people and a couch. However, there are many types of therapy—and even more therapeutic activities—to meet you where you are.
In addition to “talk therapy,” you can explore dance, art, equine-assisted therapy, and writing-based therapy.
4. Have I explored resources for a “best fit” therapist?
All therapists aren’t created equal. It’s essential to spend time with yourself to explore what you need in a provider before committing to therapy. We know Blackness isn’t a monolith; therapists aren't either! Exploring resources to find the “best fit” therapist increases the chances of finding a mental health provider who meets your needs.
When exploring therapists, consider their availability, whether they offer tele-services, and whether they have experience with others who share your struggles or identities.
Here are some resources to help you get started:
Seeking therapy is a big deal, but with some preplanning and an open mind, you'll see tremendous progress in your relationship with yourself and others.
Happy Healing!