The Drop Off: A Michigan Love Story
Parenthood doesn’t come with a blueprint, but if you don’t prioritize your wellness, it will affect how you parent
Parenthood doesn’t come with a blueprint. It looks different for everyone, but if there’s one thing we can agree on, it is all-consuming. And if you don’t prioritize your mental health, it will affect how you parent.
The old phrase “it takes a village to raise a child,” captures it best. Because when mommy or daddy need a break, together or apart, having a reliable sitter to drop off the kids is essential. Ann Arbor, Michigan native Melissa Hansberry knows the importance of the drop-off and taking time to decompress.
Melissa met her husband at their alma mater Clark Atlanta where they built the foundation of their relationship brick by brick. They both enjoy traveling and after graduation, they decorated their passports with stamps from over 10 countries. But it was the charm of Michigan, that made it undeniable where they would have to get married.
The restaurant where they wed is different now, but in a full circle moment, Melissa revisits the place they took their vows for an intimate dinner.
“We had dinner at the restaurant where we were married nine years ago. It’s just a special place for me because it’s where I grew up. It’s my home.”
Where To Go After You’ve Dropped Off The Kids
In her free time, Melissa likes to shop, catch a movie, visit the spa or stop by the local eateries for all of the Michigan must-haves. It’s a form of self-care for the loving mother. During our candid convo, she recommended a few spots that are more than enough to make anyone pack up and visit Michigan.
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Treat yourself to The Bloom Wellness Spa in Ann Arbor where relaxation meets luxury. Because what better way is there to relax after dropping off the kids than the spa?
For Melissa, slowing down and “not feeling like everything is in a rush or everything has to get done” brings relief. “Sometimes there’s fun and excitement in having nothing to do,” she added. Which is why she loves visiting the spa with hubby. And Ann Arbor’s Bloom Wellness has a unique touch that makes all other places unable to compete. From their phenomenal massages to deprivation tank that lets your drift into peace and stillness, it’s the perfect place to quiet the mind and relax the body.
Drop off the kids and prepare for a night out. Good eats meet good vibes at the swanky Zana restaurant in Birmingham, MI. With a robust drink menu, led by award-winning Mad Mixologist Anthony Escalante, you’ll be transported to a romantic scene under mood lighting and pleasing aesthetic. Chef Benjamin Zemach sprinkled his signature flavor on the savory American menu with European flair. This location is even more special for Melissa, as this is where she was married. The venue space was converted to this delicious haven, but maintained the private space in the back where Melissa and hubby shared their vows.
A Few Honorable Mentions
“I know what you’re thinking. I didn’t drop off the kids to get a deli sandwich. But oh, the contrary, peacefully eating a delicious sub without interruption is indeed self-care,” Melissa insists. Zingerman’s doesn’t make just any sandwiches; they make headlines with their delicious eats. This historic and award-winning Delicatessen is a fixture in the community drawing the attention from foodies near and far.
According to Melissa, “It’s really flavorful and the kind of destination that people come from all over the state to get. It’s one of the most famous places to eat.”
Michigan is full of serene green areas like Gallup Park to catch up on some quiet time while the kids are away. This popular Ann Arbor recreation area is located on the Huron River and Geddes Pond, and bridges other small islands via scenic walkways. Reconnect with nature and yourself along one of the mile long trails perfect for walking, running, jogging or roller blading.
Day dates with yourself or your partner are needed. Whether you’re visiting alone or with a loved one, Veteran’s Memorial Park is a local attraction that draws in thousands of people for a glimpse at its breathtaking fountains. On the other end of the park, you can pay respects to those who served the country at one of the memorials on the other end.
While Michigan is home for Melissa, she advocates it to be somewhere that everyone should experience. “It creates a charm, synergy, and just lasting impact on your heart. Whether the history, the sites or hidden gems it can bring out such a great mood.”
A Reflective Reset
Melissa is able to lean on her partner and vice versa – and while they prioritize alone time, quality time helps them both function as better parents.
“Making time for each other is still top priority. We don’t skip over that. It was us before it was, us with our daughter. And do not mean that in a way that’s disrespectful to our child, but just in a way that’s kind of like when we make time for our marriage and our relationship then we do so much better as a family and we’re so much happier as a family.”
Being on the same page has allowed Melissa and her husband’s marriage to thrive.
“If I’m neglecting my self-care or if my husband is, we can tell it by our attitudes – by how we respond to one another, by our communication, by how we’re getting along. Like, he can tell, if I’m more irritable, I’m irritable with [our daughter] I’m more just combative,” she explained.
“That time for us to recharge just makes us get on the same page. It not only helps our relationship, but I think it helps us be better parents and be on the same page about how we parent her.”